This past week we talked about dating and the context in which we should date. Below is the notes and recap of our time together. We also want to thank you all for taking part in what God’s been doing in the lives of youth here at University Fellowship Church. It has been such a blessing and encouragement to all the youth staff here at UFC. We are excited for what God has in store for the new year. We will be taking a break from our weekly Bridge Nights and will start up again on January 7th. Our focus will be reaching those who don’t know the Lord and what we, as believers, should look like. We have seen our youth grow in their walk with the Lord these past few months and want to equip to take there “walk” into their schools, homes, community, and beyond. Please keep us in your prayers as we began to plan out 2015. Have a wonderful Christmas! I look forward to seeing everyone in the new year!
Relationship with Peers: Part 3
- Dave started out by saying that he’s not saying to date and not saying don’t date. When it comes to dating the first thing you need to do is listen to your parents instructions.
- Look at 1 Timothy 5:1-2. There is a sense of community in these verses. Each one of these terms are family terms. We are supposed to treat others like our family members even if they aren’t. The body of Christ should look like a family
- How are you treating your brothers and sisters in Christ?
- The context of dating should be the same. Our context should be to get to know them like a brother or sister.
- In a Godly context you can learn what it truly looks like the honor and respect someone of the opposite sex in the right way.
- We should be a family. If your family member is hurting then you should be hurting. If your family member is rejoicing you should be rejoicing.
- You should be dating in community. If you’re dating alone then you are setting yourself up for failure.
- Date in context: you should be dating in the context that you are dating your brother or sister. Get to know them personally and spiritually, not physically.
- Date in the context of family. You should have them over, have them around your family. If you are embarrassed by this then you probably shouldn’t be together.
- How do you know you’re ready?
- Know who you are. Ask yourself “Who am I?” When we begin to know who we are we begin to know how we fit. Look at Psalm 139:14. You’re a piece of a puzzle and the more you know who you are the more you know how you fit. In this, you should know your characteristics. Practice reciting the characteristics you have. Know your giftings.
- Know what you’re looking for. “If you don’t know what you’re looking for you won’t find it.” The top of every person’s list should be: godly person.
- What’s your baggage? Knowing the hurdles that you’re going to bring to the table will help your relationship. If your baggage is similar to someone else’s baggage then you might have some issues. This doesn’t mean you can’t date that person, but you should be aware of this. Knowing your baggage is important.
- We finished by filling out a worksheet that answers these questions to put this in practice.