This week we started talking about a new relationship: our relationship with our parents. Dave touched on the different roles our parents can have in our lives. He finished by telling us that we all have the power to improve our relationships with our parents. Please look at the sermon notes below!
Relationship with Parents: Roles
- A relationship is the way in which two or more people are connected
- One reason why there are disconnects with relationships is because the roles are not accurately defined.
- Defining our relationship with Christ is what we have done the past few weeks. We also looked at our roles and what they also weren’t. His role is to love us unconditionally. Our role is to serve Him.
- Now before we dive into relationships with others we have to understand that the relationship with God is unique in the sense that it will never change. However, our relationship with everyone else will for the most part change.
- God first introduces the relationship between a man and a woman–marriage.
- After marriage the next relationship we see is the role of parents
- They are first introduced in Genesis 4 when Adam and Eve had Cain and Abel.
- Now here is the thing about parents: Their role and the relationship will change over time. This is what causes the conflict. We struggle with the transitions as the relationship progresses or we fight about their roles and our roles inside the relationship.
- Parental roles: 1-5 years old: Caretaker. In this role they are a protector (look at Nehemiah 4:13-14) and provider (look at Ephesians 6:4).
- Parental roles: 5-12 years old: Cop. In this role they teach (look at Deuteronomy 6:4-7) and train (look at Proverbs 22:6).
- Parental roles: 12-17 years old: Coach. In this role they model. This is where training should end and modeling should begin because at your age you start carving out an identity for yourself. They also encourage (look at Proverbs 22:6). They identify your gifting and provide opportunities for you to exercise those gifts.
- Homework! Dave ended his sermon by challenging us all to complete 3 things. The first was to ask ourselves: Are your parents in the cop role still? Why is this happening? One explanation he gave was that perhaps you are still acting like someone that needs to be taught and trained rather than modeling and encouraging.
- The second question he asked us was: What can you do to improve your relationship with your parents? We all have the power to improve our relationships with our parents.
- Finally, Dave finished by challenging us all to sit down our parents and clearly explain to them the impact they have had in our lives. Praise has a lot of power and we could all be doing it more!